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Did you know that 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men will experience domestic violence in their lifetime? You or someone you know have likely been in a violent relationship and still might be. Domestic violence can affect anyone. No one deserves to live in fear of the person they love. If you recognize the warning signs, please reach out for help.  Our 24-hour hotline is 1-800-500-5513.

Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship

Mom_320Avoiding Family and Friends. Your partner may cut you off from people who support and influence you.

Withdrawal and Isolation. You back away from activities that you enjoyed before beginning the relationship. You spend all of your free time with your partner.

Jealousy and Controlling Behaviors. This may look like concern initially with your partner wanting to know where you are at all times because they care for you.  But it quickly turns into control for control’s sake.

Justifications. You find yourself making excuses for your partner’s explosive, erratic, or controlling behavior.

Belittling and Blame.  Your partner frequently calls you names or threatens you.  Your partner may blame his actions on you (“See what you made me do!”) Your self-esteem may suffer to the point where you don’t trust yourself to make decisions on your own.

Fear.  You are unreasonably afraid of upsetting your partner.  You fear making decisions on your own and take the blame when your partner is angry with you. You are afraid to speak to or be friends with the opposite sex even when your partner is not around. You’re afraid that if you don’t do everything perfectly, your partner will hurt you or someone you love (physically or emotionally).

Red Flags:

Your partner has a history of abusive behavior.
Your partner hurts or threatens animals or personal property.
Your partner intimidates you with knives or guns.
Your partner hits, slaps, or threatens to kill you.

YWCA 24-Hour Hotline: 1-800-500-5513